Posted by Estherlubisia

What do you want to know?Hi is it normal that i can't feel i am in love with any man although i have been approached my, many yet am about 2 turn 20 yrs this mnth.


Hi Esther, thanks for your question.

Whether you're in a relationship already or admiring someone from afar, sorting out your feelings for someone can be a real challenge. While there's no clear, foolproof way to make the distinction for someone else, you can at least make the distinction clearer for yourself.

There is a big difference between love, lust and infatuation.

Love is when you care for this person even knowing his or her faults. You are committed to sticking together even through the most difficult circumstances. You can tell this person anything about yourself, even if the truth doesn't flatter you, and you know that your partner will accept you.

If you're looking to catch someone as a prize or to get someone to go to bed with you, you're treating the person like a thing, and you're probably experiencing lust.

When you experience infatuation, your mind is consumed by thoughts of the other person. You're thinking not only about the other person but also about how you want to reveal yourself to the other person. You have an idealized vision of what this person is like, and your vision may or may not be accurate.

So its very important for you to distinguish these feeling and know what you are feeling towards a particular person. Its ok and normal to be attracted to different people at the same time, but you cannot love them all at the same time.

Take your time with any relationship that you get into to learn about the person before you fully commit yourself and your feelings to them.

All the best to you.