Posted by Brenyenye

So,my boyfriend and I have been dating for a while now and i have caught him flirting with other women. In one case i caught him cheating with this one lady,,well not sexually but he was having an affair and on confronting him he claimed they have never had sex. He even said he would cut her off,,which as far as I am concerned he did,but you can never really trust anyone.
Then just the other day,I saw that he was now having an affair with this other lady,,she had cropped up in our previous issue but my focus was on this other one that he claims he cut off. So this time it was this other lady. She even wished him a happy fathers day and he replied he is not yet a father and she told him to just be patient,,he will be soon. He was also telling her he loves her and all that stuff,,calling her babe and all that..
I am yet to confront him .. I just dont know what to do,,its hurts a lot..I do love him,,and he claims he loves me too but,,I feel as if he is just toying with my feelings and playing with me.
I dont know what to do.


Hello sis,

I can imagine what you are going through, been heartbroken twice by the man that you love so much.

Cheating doesn’t always have to be sexual. Sometimes cheating is on an emotional level. When someone shares intimate thoughts with a person who’s not their partner, it’s called emotional cheating. Cheating of any form can cause a lot of sorrow in relationships and can even lead to break-up.

There are lots of different reasons why people cheat. They might be unhappy in their relationship or unsatisfied with the sex. You might cheat if you don’t love your partner any more, if sex isn’t satisfying, if your partner has cheated on you in the past, or if you feel neglected or under-appreciated.

Plan to have a candid conversation with your partner, express your feelings and let him know what you want. You may also consider sometime alone, reflecting on the relationship and making a decision on what you exactly want. You may also want to think about infections,such as HIV and sexually transmitted infections especially if you are sexually active with your partner and make a sober decision.

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Wish you all the best.

Love Matters Team.


So, I went through my boyfriend's phone a few days ago and I realised he had been playing me all along. He has had affairs before which I thought would end but they are still going on. And this time there is a new girl in the picture and apparently they are dating.
So I want to end things but I dont know how to confront him because the only reason I know this is by going through his phone and it's not nice at all.
How do I go about it.?