Relationships

Posted by Afolabi

my girlfriend living in another town bearly pick my calls and if i text her she finds it diffcult 2 reply even if i wants 2 visit or ask her 2 visit she keeps giving me excuces that her parent wouldn't allow.did she trully love me?Bcuz am wait on her and i dont want her 2 waste my tym or i should move on?

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Hello Afolabi,

It is hard to be in a relationship with someone with whom you have limited contact, whether face-to-face or over the phone. While her parents may be strict and prohibit her from having any form of face-to-face contact, it appears as though she does not make any effort to connect with you through other channels. If she has not given you a justifiable reason as to why she does not pick your calls or respond to your messages, you should take it to mean that she is not as committed to the relationship as you are.

On the othe hand, if her parents are too strict that they even monitor her calls and messages, decide whether you are ready to shoulder the burden of having to contact her each time and handle disappointments when she fails to pick calls or reply messages. This is not going to be easy since there may be a breakdown in communication and since you are not meeting physically, your relationship may be too strained.

People who are in love make time for each other and make an effort to communicate through various channels. If her parents do not interfere with communication via the phone, it means there is little effort from her and this may, in turn, imply that she is not into the relationship or you. That is why you should establish the real reason and make an informed decision.

A fruitful 2017 to you!

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Hi Afolabi,

Communication is a very important part of any relationship. And for a long distance relationship like yours communication is the only thing that can keep the relationship.

When there is no communication in a relationship it simply means there is no relationship. If your partner is not making an effort to communicate with you it could go to show she is not interested in the relationship.

The people you love are usually the ones you feel happiest with. They're the people you want to spend time with, who you couldn't bear to lose - the ones you really care about. If you love someone you want to be in constant communication with them.

The truth is your partner might not feel the same way you feel about them. This maybe disappointing to hear but its a good way of identifying an issue in the relationship.

It would be important for you to talk to your partner and express how you feel about the situation and how things are going. It would also be nice to discuss about your expectations of each other so that you both know what to expect and what is expected of you.

Even when you can't be able to see each other because of various challenges like distance or strict parents you can always find time to talk and bond through the different modes of communication.

If things are still not working after that it might be a sign that its not the relationship for you and you might want to consider breaking up.

Long distance relationships can be challenging, so here are some tips on how you can cope with them https://lovematters.co.ke/news/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts .