Relationships

Posted by Justdave

I hv got a new gal bt I find it difficult loving her as much as my ex. Am still sexually attracted to my ex and although hv tried avoiding her, whenever we together we reopen our love book. I don't want to continue with my ex cus she appears to hv overgrown me and she claims she's afraid of me whenever am angry. Hv tried explaining things to her bt she appears nt to understand. I feel she's got all she wanted and there's nothing I can offer now. She broke up with me when I needed her the most. I accepted my faults and apologized but she refused changing her mind. Until now I still feel my heart leap whenever I see her pix or hear her voice nt to talk of seeing her in person. I really want to move on completely. How do I go about it?

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Dear Justdave,

I appreciate the fact that you know what the issue is and you are willing to sort it out. It is important before you engage in any other relationship, that you deal with the previous relationship. This will help you to love the person you are with the way she is without comparing her with your ex.

Dealing with a break up in never easy, here are some tips on how to deal with break up;-

Understand what was the issue, what happened and learn from it

Accept where you are, acknowledge your feelings and deal with them in a constructive way. Remember your worth.

Have a "me" time- utilize this time to reflect on what you want and how you want.

Surround yourself with people that love you and you love them back.

You may also want to disconnect with your ex-girlfriend. Avoid making calls or texts or meeting her in person until you are fully healed.

Check this article that has more details on dealing with break up;- https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/after-the-break-up

Wish you the best.

Love Matters Team.

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Thank u so much for ur advice it really helped. Well, hv been able to avoid all forms of communications, as a matter of fact hv got her blocked and she noticed after some failed attempt to reach me on phone. Do u think am over doing it?

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Thank u so much for ur advice it really helped. Well, hv been able to avoid all forms of communications, as a matter of fact hv got her blocked and she noticed after some failed attempt to reach me on phone. Do u think am over doing it?