Relationships

Posted by Caronthenya

I am in love with a married man, older than me by 15years. Am also married with 2 kids but no longer love my husband. However, my lover is getting distant lately and I think he has another girlfriend. I am so stressed. What do I do?

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Hello Caro,

I am sorry for what you are going through. However you first need to acknowledge the fact that he is a married and therefore you cannot get his undivided attention. Second, he decided to have an extra marital affair with you, this fact does not stop him from looking for another girlfriend. It is therefore your decision to either dance to the tune or step out of this relationship.

Caro, you said that you no longer love your husband, what is the issue? Have you tried to work things out? Relationship goes through rough patches at some point in life, what is important is how as a couple you navigate that season. Cheating on your husband does not solve the issue, it actually complicates the situation.

Perhaps, you may want to take "me" time, reflect on your life and make an informed decision. You may also consider seeking professional counselling services.

Check out these two articles for more information: https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/relationship-problems/famil...
https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/relationship-problems/cheat...

Love Matters Team.

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Thank you so much. My love for my husband diminished as I fell in love with this other guy. And tes, I cheated mainly because my lover is so good in bed. I didn't intend to fall in love, he is also caring and treated me like a queen. My hubby on the other hand treats me like a child.
Now am at a loss since I gave my whole heart to this other man and his attention has shifted to some other girl.

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Hello Carol,

Reflect on both relationships, what does each of them mean to you? What do you gain or lose by being in both relationship? What exactly do you want? Is it your husband or your lover? If it is your husband, is there anything you can do to improve your sex life? If you choose your lover, are you willing to be the second, third or even fourth girlfriend? And what will it mean to your marriage?

Carol sometimes we rush to things which has short term gratification only to be disappointed. Make a wise decision that you will not regret in future.

Love Matters Team.

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Could you please post my issue on your facebook page? I would like to get other readers insights.

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Carol,

I cannot promise to have your issue published. However should it be published, I will let you know.

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Hello Carol,

You issue will be published this Thursday 22nd March 2018 at 9:00pm. Please check our facebook page.