Posted by Giru11

I am a 24 year old lady. I have been with my boyfriend for six and a half years now. We met when I was in campus. He is the only guy I have known. I have been through a lot with this guy, both good and bad. But of late I have lost interest in him. I want to break off from this relationship and stay single as I figure out my life. The things I have gone through are a contributing factor to me breaking up with him. I recently learnt that he cheated on me. I threatened to break up with him but I found myself back to him because I'm scared of being alone. He is the only guy I have known. I am not a social person so I don't have many friends, so if I let go I fear being alone and nobody to turn to. I have also had a termination claiming that he wasn't ready to have a kid. He has begged me not to let him go, claiming he's changed, that he wants to make me happy, he'll do anything for me to be happy. But I don't feel the same way for him, all I want is to let go and figure all this out. Am I doing the right thing by breaking it off? I don't think I'm ready to give him another chance.Anonymous


Dear Giru,

Sorry for what you are going through. Six and a half years is not a short time to be with someone, you must have invested a lot in it to make to where you are now. That said, you seem to be dissatisfied with the way things are in your relationship and you want out though not sure of it.

Sometimes in a relationship, people grow apart, if nothing is done to nurture the relationship people tend to grow more and more apart and this may led to a break up. To me you seem like you already know what you want, at times having your own time to reflect on the relationship, to know and learn from the past mistakes helps you to build a healthy and strong relationship when you get ready to be in one.

However much tired you feel in this relationship, create time to talk to your partner, let him know the decision you have made and the reasons as to why that decision. He may accept or not, what is most important is for you to be firm on your decision. If you decide to move on, take time to heal, surround yourself with people that care and love you. Do things that make your happy and take good care of yourself. Check out these two article on tips on how to move on;-

Love Matters Team.