Posted by Marcos

How can one forgive someone Who has Broken trust in marriage.


Hello Marcos,

“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.” ~Paul Boese

So lets see what to forgive means, according to Collins English Dictionary, to forgive is to cease to blame or hold resentment against someone. It is also to grant pardon for a mistake or wrong doing. Therefore the questions is are you willing to grant pardon?

Sometimes, it may feel the right thing to do is to walk away. However for someone reason you may want to hold on and fight for the survival of the relationship maybe because of its value. Here are some healthy steps on how you can go about forgiveness;-

Realize that you can’t make people change. You need to be honest with yourself, is it really healthy to stay in this relationship.

Determine what you need. Is it that you want the person to own up to their mistakes? Whatever it is make sure you know what you need.

After your needs are met, do the work to forgive. As with most emotions and choices, forgiving is something we may need to do repeatedly. It’s not a one-time decision. What’s important is that you want to forgive—that you’re willing to show kindness for that person and see them with fresh eyes, even if it isn’t always easy.

Be open to love again and to enjoy! I am sure if you have chosen to keep the relationship then there are things that are there for both of you that you treasure. Take the time to enjoy each other, living mindfully in the present, within the new boundaries you’ve set.

Marcos, relationships aren’t easy. People make mistakes, but even the deepest wounds can heal and the most wounded relationships can transform. You just need to learn to know when it’s healthy to hold on and when it’s prudent to let go.

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Wish you the best of luck!

Love Matters Team.


Thanks so much for the advise. I really appreciate.


You are welcome.