Relationships

Posted by gbolagade

How can I move out from bondage and agony of first love which we are not more together

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Hello,

Healing from the wounds of a broken relationship is difficult. The way you feel depends slightly on whether you’ve been ‘dumped’ or you did the dumping. People who have been through both say that being dumped is much worse – not surprisingly. It’s a blow to your self-esteem. But in either case, it’s not easy.

Here are some tips on how you can move on Think about what went wrong, but don't obsess over it. Don't fight your feelings - accept them, and let them out gently. It can be hard to stop thinking about it, but try to take your mind off it as much as you can. Remember that your end goal is to move on.

Meet with friends and share your feelings. There’s no better cure for a broken heart than sharing your feelings with good friends. You can meet for an evening beer or wine and pour your heart out.

Get rid of negative emotions. If you still feel angry with your ex a few months after breaking up, remind yourself that it’s in the past now and it's time to let go. Get rid of things that remind you of your partner – things like the gifts they gave you or cards they made. It’s sad, but it can help you move on.

Care for yourself. Eat well, sleep well, and take lots of exercise. Do things that make you feel better – like going for a walk in the park or getting together with your family. A little bit of tender loving care goes a long way in the healing process.

Get a new hobby. Try learning how to cook Thai food or play the piano. Find things to do to fill in spare time. Keeping your mind and body busy is an essential part of healing. You might also meet new people with similar interests when you join a group or club.

Be positive. It might sound unbelievable, but it's perfectly possible that you’ll find someone else who’ll love you again.

Don’t turn to drink or drugs. Stay away from alcohol and other unprescribed drugs. They’ll do you more harm than help you heal.

Watch out for signs of depression. If you think you’re falling into depression, let someone know. Get help.