Posted by Sassy

hi.i need help im confused.i and my boyfriend have known for a very long time during my secondary school days but we were just last year he called me after a very long time that he wanted us to see.which i went over to see him he asked me out and i accepted.we got engaged this he said we can't get married if i don't get a Job.and jobs are not easy to come by this days.i started feeling recently dat im loosing him.he said dat i dont want to get a job.he doesn't call as often as he used to.wat do i do


You really have to ask him what is going on because looking at the situation, it’s not about the job.. maybe you’re too less busy or you walk with the wrong people since you don’t have a job and maybe he have tried stopping that but no changes . You need to sit him down and ask him what he likes and dislikes. I think he want to change something about you and if you do too, you have to talk to him and make changes.


Thank you for the reply Ayomide.


Dear Sassy,

Open and honest communication with your partner is a key element for a strong and healthy relationship. Perhaps you need to find out from him if there is more to not having a job? It is important that you discuss your expectations and vision for the relationship; that way you will know if you are fit for each other or not. Whichever decision you make ensure its an informed one.

Wish you the best.

Love Matters Team.