Relationships

Posted by Nick

Hello! Its nice to be here, am new and I've benefitted a lot from d questions and answrs I seen here, I want to ask mine nd I hope I'd hav a gud idea of a proper decision to take, I hav dis gal I've been dating for years now, we stay in different LGAs, I love her so much and she loves me too, d oda day she gav me her fone to repair but afta I did d repair I went thru her watsapp chat, I had trusted her blindly nd used her as an example to my frnds dat such decent gals can b found despite d distance btw us. Wat I saw dat nite ws mor dan I bargained for and I was sad and angry she's been cheating on me al dis while, wat pains most is I hav been faithful and didn't deserve dis, I told her d followin day hw disappointed I ws nd wantd a brkup bt she pleaded heaven and earth for me to giv her a second chance, dat she can't compare me wit dem nd dat dos guys meant notin to her, infact her sister weighed in so much for her in a bid to avoid d brkup, I knew she'd be goin into an emotional tormoil, she said she can't live witout me nd she can't fall for anoda man again, she held d bible nd swore to me she has never slept wit anyman cos she told me she reserving her best for me, I ws stil not satisfied bt she now sensing I wasn't gonna change my mind, she swore dat she'd never forgive me for destroying wat we built for yrs and dat she'd engaged on a sex rampage since she has turned dwn several men approach nd almost got raped severally bcos of me, I care abt her a lot nd I knw she can't live happy wit such a grudge on her mind, she said she will never repeat such again, now d question is can I really be able to trust her again? How long culd it possibly take for me to do dat? I love her so much nd I am sure am inside d deepest portion of her hrt? Sorry for writing dis much, dere ar som parts dat I skipped dou bt dis d most important

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Hello Nick,

If you know your partner well and have had a close, long-term relationship, you can often tell when something’s not right. You might notice that they’ve begun spending a lot more time at work, they have less time for you and your family, start taking calls in private, and seem less committed to doing things with you. Maybe they're paying attention to their looks, and they appear confused and detached. When you ask them if anything's wrong, they shrug off your question.

Finding out that your partner’s been cheating on you can be a traumatic experience. It can seriously damange the trust between the two of you and could even lead to a break-up, separation or divorce. You might spend days, weeks or months wondering what you did wrong and why this happened.

But don't blame yourself - take some time to calm down and think about your relationship.

Whether you want to stay with your partner depends on a number of things. Is your partner willing to go on? If they are, what will it take for them to regain your trust? Will your trust in them ever be restored? How can you start rebuilding your relationship? The answers may not be simple, but give these questions some thought and it might help you decide on the right path to take.

Read more here https://lovematters.co.ke/news/cheating-top-five-facts .

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Tanks so much for dis guidance u've given me, I wil ask myself those questions and see, we agreed last year dat she'd change nd totally devote herself and love me lik never, it was indeed a traumatic experience I passed thru, bt so does she too wen I threatened d breakup, I'd try giv her d benefit of d doubt again, bt my fear is if I regain d trust I had on her

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Sorry I meant if I fail to regain d trust I had on her