Posted by Njeri8

Hello? Am in a relationship which seems to be all good but its a distance relationship. I love my man so much since he is all that I need in a man. But he is a very social person especially with ladies. At first I understood it all well since what he does ladies are around, but recently am feeling some doubt and afraid that I might be loosing him. I try to bring the topic up when we are together but he always seems to get unhappy about it. Am afraid that I may be losing trust. Another problem is he usually talk rude and when I ask him why he does it he says its not only with me but with everyone. I have tried to help him from talking bad but he always ends up doing it again. What should I do? I really love him and am afraid of loosing him especially to those ladies


Dear Njeri,

Thank you for trusting us with your issue. It can be challenging when you want your partner to do one thing but he seems like he is not ready to listen to you. On the other hand, you should know that it may be difficult to change a person. Change comes from within, having determination and the will to do so.

Building a healthy and strong relationship is the responsibility of the two partners. Having open and honest communication goes along way in making your relationship better. Trust is a key element in any relationship, losing trust with your partner may damage the relationship to the extent of ending up in a break up.

So in your case, there are 2 options; one you accept your man with his social skills, build your relationship, address the insecurities that you both have and move on. The other option is to walk out of this relationship. Which ever decision you make, remember it has consequences, think through carefully and make an informed decision.

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Wish you all the best.

Love Matters Team.