Posted by Nellie

Am pregnant and he harasses me... He pretends to be ok with me being pregnant but the way he treats me is opposite of expectation...He chased me away from his house but then he claims to love me... am so confused I don't know what to do


Hi Nellie,

Sorry for what you are going through.

It can be tough dealing with a partner who mistreats you and especially more difficult if one is pregnant.

Relationships have their ups and downs and its sometimes difficult to understand them.

You are in a very sensitive place and you need all the love and support that you can get.

Staying positive and stress free is also very important for your health and that of the baby. You need to take time and think about what you want.

Is that the kind of relationship you want to be in for the rest of your life? He might not be ready for the pregnancy but that is not a reason to mistreat you.

You could try talking to him and express yourself if you haven't done so already.

You don't need to make any rush decisions for now, all you need to concentrate on is the well being of you and your child. And if he cannot provide that for you then you need to think about staying away from him.

This could be difficult since you are emotionally involved and you are carrying his child, but sometimes we need to make tough choices.